I am not celebrating this year myself.
My year-long search for a boss has not produced any results to date. The same could be said of another 15 million: we find ourselves “boss-less” today, October 16th.
For the majority of Americans who are reporting to work today, the issue of dealing with their boss can be the most demanding part of their job. And when you add the pressures every company in the country is feeling as a result of our current financial downturn, the employee-boss relationship can be very stressful. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Working for You Isn’t Working for Me, The Ultimate Guide to Managing You Boss, a new book by business and writing partners Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster “aims to show you how to recover from and interact with even the most challenging authority figures – Chronic critics, yellers, unconscious discriminators, control freaks, pathological liars and more.”
In a recent interview with Reuters which appeared in the New York Times, Ms. Crowley — a friend of mine, I will point out in the interest of full disclosure — spoke about the new book:
In this down economy, one of the most common types is the “control freak” boss who wants to approve every decision, said Katherine Crowley, a psychotherapist who wrote the book with Kathi Elster, her partner in a New York consulting firm.
“That behaviour, very micro-managing, is very common under stress,” she told Reuters in an interview. “They’re terrified of making a mistake so they don’t want anything happening they don’t know about.”
Luckily, there is a solution:
The authors lay out four steps to resolve trouble with an annoying boss — detect it, detach from it, depersonalize it and deal with it.
Detaching is likely to be the hardest, said Crowley.
“When you have a difficult situation, there is something in human nature that we want to dig down, solve it, work on it harder,” she said. “Detaching is all about getting emotional distance from the situation.”